Real Birth Journey: Phoebe Lee

Birth. It is the most incredible, indescribable, unpredictable and miraculous occurrence. Bringing life into the world is an experience that is personal and precious beyond belief. Each delivery is different to the next, and yet I feel that despite the varying differences it is something so special it can actually bring us altogether. I’m pulling together a range of real birth stories to share in the hope of expanding our knowledge and expectations of birth, and to dwell in the wonder that is the gift of life, in the countless forms it may arrive in!

Name & age at birth:
Tegan, 23 years old

Due date:
12th June 2019

Cravings during pregnancy:
Chocolate!! 

Worst symptom/s:
My back was quite achey in the last few months of this pregnancy. 

Biggest concern about birth was:
Not making it in time. With my first born, I slept through most of my labour and arrived at the hospital fully dilated and so I was worried it would happen again, except that I wouldn’t make it this time. 

Ideal birth plan was:
A natural labour. I knew that because I’d done it before, if I didn’t have any complications, I could do it again.

Hours in labour:
1 hour in total.

How we went from wombmate to roommate:
I had been feeling on and off light contractions for a few hours but they weren’t getting any stronger or closer together. It was about 5am when I couldn’t sleep and I said to my partner Aaron “I think we better go in just to be sure.” Because everything happened so quickly with my first – Kyle, I didn’t want to take any chances and preferred to be safe than sorry. We called my mother in law to come and watch Kyle who was peacefully sleeping and off we went.

When we arrived, I was in no pain and worried that my contractions had stopped. To be honest I felt quite silly standing there waiting to be seen. I told them “I think I might be in labour, but I’m not sure.” So they checked me for dilation and I was at 4cm, which surprised them. They said because of what happened last time, they would put me in a triage room and see if I progress. Within 20 minutes my waters broke and I could feel the contractions start to gain some consistency and get stronger. We walked into the delivery suite and the midwife said to walk around and she’d check me in 4 hours time, because I had only just been checked. In my mind I thought there’s no way I’ll labour for that long!

5 minutes after she said that and we were all just standing around talking, I suddenly felt a lot of pressure and I knew something was happening. I laid down on the floor next to the bed and I said “I think I need to push now, there’s a lot of pressure.” They all looked at me confused because I was only checked 30 minutes ago at 4cm and wasn’t in enough pain.

The midwife rushed over to check me and she said “ok, are you ready to meet your baby?” And I said “what? Now?” And she said “yep, your baby’s right here, you can start pushing.” I couldn’t believe it! I was so excited and so shocked! I think because I dilated so quickly, it’s as if my body couldn’t keep up and so I missed the strong contractions and went straight to the pushing stage.

I pushed with everything I had and hugged into Aaron as hard as I could. (He was leaning over my head as I laid on the floor) 15 minutes later, my beautiful baby was born was placed onto my chest. We didn’t know the gender yet. It was then that Aaron lifted her leg, to find that we had a precious, baby girl! We all screamed with joy and tears. It was pure magic. 

Most amusing/interesting moment during labour/birth:
That I didn’t experience intense contractions. I never knew that a birth like that was possible. Don’t get me wrong, I had a few contractions that did hurt but it was nothing like my last labour and it all happened so quickly that it was basically over at the same time it all began!

During labour/birth, I definitely did not expect
The burning feeling when pushing. Last time I had the episiotomy and forceps, so I didn’t experience what it really felt like to push out a baby completely naturally. It was super intense and hard work!

Baby’s name, birth weight and date:
Phoebe Lee Garcia. 7 pound 13 ounces. 11th June 2019.

Baby’s name was almost:
Ruby.

Time spent in hospital post birth:
1 night.

Best tip/trick you received for those early days:
Just chill out and relax. Go easy on yourself and let your body recover at its own pace. 

Top 3 lifesaving items for a newborn:
I think a baby wrap/sling can be super helpful, especially if it’s your second or more baby so that you still have your hands free. I also always dress my babies in basically nothing but zip onesies. So much easier when changing nappies etc.

If you could go back and speak with your pregnant self, what would you say?
That it will all work out fine, not to stress about how Kyle will react to another baby and not to question how I’ll find the time to spend with two babies. Everything will fall into place!

If you could speak with yourself during labour, what would you say?
You’re doing a great job! 🙂

If you have a birth story you’d like to share, then please get in touch and let’s start the conversation and continue celebrating this incredible life changing event!


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